jack

I'm interested by your spectrum of mistakes and apology-worthy things. I sometimes find myself in another situation, and I'm not quite sure where it would fall on the spectrum: I say or do something which offends and upsets someone else, although I did not realise it would do so and this was not my intent, and I do not understand how I caused offense. I apologise profusely, but they are unwilling or unable to explain to me how exactly it was offensive, and so I cannot genuinely resolve not to do a similar thing again (although I could certainly promise not to say that exact thing again to that particular person). I suppose this is just Aspieness. It does now make me very reluctant to say anything remotely interesting to people I don't know very well.