I guess I interpret a modern romantic view of relationships as having the freedom to be with whoever is the best match, which does mean that if you meet someone "better" it's very sad if you thought you were already in a lifelong commitment, but it's not really your fault[1].
But the reason I say "contradictory" is that that idea is being with the best match, not a second-best who is good enough (although this is somewhat clarified by your second point).
[1] Somewhere I have a post pending about the views of considering infidelity as a crime of the person reneging on a relationship, and as a crime of the person interloping.
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Date: 2011-01-05 11:22 pm (UTC)I guess I interpret a modern romantic view of relationships as having the freedom to be with whoever is the best match, which does mean that if you meet someone "better" it's very sad if you thought you were already in a lifelong commitment, but it's not really your fault[1].
But the reason I say "contradictory" is that that idea is being with the best match, not a second-best who is good enough (although this is somewhat clarified by your second point).
[1] Somewhere I have a post pending about the views of considering infidelity as a crime of the person reneging on a relationship, and as a crime of the person interloping.