I think splitting the legal bit and the party bit is totally sane, and in any case my only advice to people getting married is to have the wedding they want, not anyone else.
On the honeymoon, you don't have to go halfway around the world, but I would strongly encourage a short period together away from all other pressures and responsibilities shortly after the wedding. Time and space to enjoy each other and just each other can be a valuable foundation for the long-term project of marriage, and a source of happy memories and shared purposes for the decades to come.
Friends and family are wonderful, but the heart of marriage is the lifelong pair-bond, so give that pair-bond its own share of celebratory time at the beginning.
So I'm not saying don't take the close friends on a cottage holiday, but in your shoes, I'd plan it such that they either left early or joined you late, giving the two of you a few days alone together.
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Date: 2011-02-28 04:40 pm (UTC)On the honeymoon, you don't have to go halfway around the world, but I would strongly encourage a short period together away from all other pressures and responsibilities shortly after the wedding. Time and space to enjoy each other and just each other can be a valuable foundation for the long-term project of marriage, and a source of happy memories and shared purposes for the decades to come.
Friends and family are wonderful, but the heart of marriage is the lifelong pair-bond, so give that pair-bond its own share of celebratory time at the beginning.
So I'm not saying don't take the close friends on a cottage holiday, but in your shoes, I'd plan it such that they either left early or joined you late, giving the two of you a few days alone together.