It seems sane to me, but I'm coming at this from the viewpoint that for me and most people I know, a wedding is about announcing, solidifying, and/or confirming an existing relationship, not about starting something new. So why not strengthen it twice? Why not solidify it one month and celebrate with your friends the next?
(I'm not denying or slighting the legal effects: but having all that _and_ starting a household and a socially accepted sexual relationship, in an older model, is different from having all that with someone you are already sharing a household with, and in a social context that does not expect people to wait for a wedding in order to be lovers.)
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Date: 2011-02-28 05:51 pm (UTC)(I'm not denying or slighting the legal effects: but having all that _and_ starting a household and a socially accepted sexual relationship, in an older model, is different from having all that with someone you are already sharing a household with, and in a social context that does not expect people to wait for a wedding in order to be lovers.)