if someone isn't doing something you think they should, the right answer isn't always "come up with more and more and more reasons why they should". If their problem was "they couldn't be bothered", that will help. But if the problem is "they're paralysed by terror", [...]
Of course, the third option somewhere in the middle is that their problem might have nothing to do with emotions – there might be some actual objective problem beyond their control that's standing in the way of what you want done. In which case, it still doesn't help to try to add more motivation to a person who can't make that problem go away; what you need to do is find the person who can, and try persuading them instead...
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Date: 2014-03-19 01:47 pm (UTC)Of course, the third option somewhere in the middle is that their problem might have nothing to do with emotions – there might be some actual objective problem beyond their control that's standing in the way of what you want done. In which case, it still doesn't help to try to add more motivation to a person who can't make that problem go away; what you need to do is find the person who can, and try persuading them instead...