Shockingly good advice from Hariette

Jan. 12th, 2026 04:33 am
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DEAR HARRIETTE: My brother and I were raised in the same household by the same parents, yet as adults we have two very different views of our father. I see my dad as someone who worked hard, showed up in the ways he could and consistently supported us throughout our lives. I'm deeply grateful for him and everything he's done. My brother, on the other hand, seems to carry a lot of resentment. Whenever the subject of our dad comes up, he focuses on his shortcomings and disappointments, often listing ways he feels let down or overlooked. Listening to this has become exhausting and painful for me. It feels like he's erasing the good and ignoring the sacrifices our dad made, and I can't help but hear it as ungratefulness. At the same time, I don't want to dismiss my brother's experience or silence his truth just because it differs from mine. How do I respect his feelings without sitting through what feels like constant criticism of someone I love? -- Oh, Brother

As always, we grade her on a curve because she's usually so terrible )

Catalogue check (2024) update

Jan. 12th, 2026 04:58 pm
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I've managed to winkle out some of the books that didn't get spotted while I was doing the catalogue check in 2024 (which finished, for logistics reasons, in about February 2025).

And I've just looked at the number of tags that I have (>2K) and decided that is ridiculous. The first pass I'm doing is changing all the old location tags to [year] - last seen (not the 'unchecked/not yet seen' ones, those I'm going to think about some more). Because where any book was in 2021 (etc) is obviously not right, or I would have found it there in 2024. Once I've done that for all years prior to 2024, I'm going to go poke at the various 'unchecked' tags and see what is there.

other things I've noticed that I want to reorder

  • mythology should be mythology - [country]
  • awards should be awards: [name]
  • I have juvenile and kids and junior fiction and possibly some others, as well as a set of age: [...] categories; need to think what I want to do here.
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Netplan is Canonical's more or less mandatory method of specifying networking on Ubuntu. Netplan has a collection of limitations and irritations, and recently I ran into a new one, which is how VLANs can and can't be specified. To explain this, I can start with the YAML configuration language. To quote the top level version, it looks like:

network:
  version: NUMBER
  renderer: STRING
  [...]
  ethernets: MAPPING
  [...]
  vlans: MAPPING
  [...]

To translate this, you specify VLANs separately from your Ethernet or other networking devices. On the one hand, this is nicely flexible. On the other hand it creates a problem, because here is what you have to write for VLAN properties:

network:
  vlans:
    vlan123:
      id: 123
      link: enp5s0
      addresses: <something>

Every VLAN is on top of some networking device, and because VLANs are specified as a separate category of top level devices, you have to name the underlying device in every VLAN (which gets very annoying and old very fast if you have ten or twenty VLANs to specify). Did you decide to switch from a 1G network port to a 10G network port for the link with all of your VLANs on it? Congratulations, you get to go through every 'vlans:' entry and change its 'link:' value. We hope you don't overlook one.

(Or perhaps you had to move the system disks from one model of 1U server to another model of 1U server because the hardware failed. Or you would just like to write generic install instructions with a generic block of YAML that people can insert directly.)

The best way for Netplan to deal with this would be to allow you to also specify VLANs as part of other devices, especially Ethernet devices. Then you could write:

network:
  ethernet:
    enp5s0: 
      vlans:
        vlan123:
          id: 123
          addresses: <something>

Every VLAN specified in enp5s0's configuration would implicitly use enp5s0 as its underlying link device, and you could rename all of them trivially. This also matches how I think most people think of and deal with VLANs, which is that (obviously) they're tied to some underlying device, and you want to think of them as 'children' of the other device.

(You can have an approach to VLANs where they're more free-floating and the interface that delivers any specific VLAN to your server can change, for load balancing or whatever. But you could still do this, since Netplan will need to keep supporting the separate 'vlans:' section.)

If you want to work around this today, you have to go for the far less convenient approach of artificial network names.

network:
  ethernet:
    vlanif0:
      match:
        name: enp5s0

  vlans:
    vlan123:
      id: 123
      link: vlanif0
      addresses: <something>

This way you only need to change one thing if your VLAN network interface changes, but at the cost of doing a non-standard way of setting up the base interface. (Yes, Netplan accepts it, but it's not how the Ubuntu installer will create your netplan files and who knows what other Canonical tools will have a problem with it as a result.)

We have one future Ubuntu server where we're going to need to set up a lot of VLANs on one underlying physical interface. I'm not sure which option we're going to pick, but the 'vlanif0' option is certainly tempting. If nothing else, it probably means we can put all of the VLANs into a separate, generic Netplan file.

Choices (8)

Jan. 12th, 2026 08:41 am
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The arrangements that were possible

It was very gratifying, Julius Roberts considered, to be warmly welcomed entirely in the capacity of an esteemed fellow scientist at the Oxford Botanic Garden! For although he had made some several visits to Oxford over the years – been desired to look over various College gardens – perchance examine some manuscript account compiled by a Fellow in past time – he had ever had a somewhat uneasy feeling that he owed that hospitality to the connexions made by way of the club for fellows of the disposition in Town. And mayhap because he was known a close friend of Beauf – Lord Sallington!

But it was very pleasant to talk botany and plants and hothouses and this fine matter of bringing a historic garden into more modern ways and not to feel that his interlocutors’ thoughts were also upon his lovely dusky arse. Sure Chumball, and others of his set, never went be encroaching, but one could not ignore that there was a certain yearning in the air!

It was also agreeable to be away from the purlieux of Nitherholme and Fendersham Hall. It had been tiresome enough when Drew Fendersham and his cronies had been quite running wild about the countryside with their hound-trails and other pursuits – there had even been a midnight steeplechase or two, one was exceedingly relieved that there had been no broken necks. But now Lord Fendersham himself had returned – Elthorne, the hermit of the moors, that had at one time had a classical education, had chuckled and remarked, did not one mind upon Odysseus expelling the suitors from Ithaca?

While there was also an anticipation that Beauf would shortly be coming to Nitherholme: 'twould doubtless be a family party, with his father the Duke and very like his stepmother and assorted brothers, to support the Whig interest about the place.

Indeed, the place became a little desolate, not only lacking Beauf’s company while he was in Town about being a dutiful son and elder brother, but now that Polly Fendersham had finally left for Peru. He had been a little tempted himself to that jaunt – fancied that the Spanish Americas were a deal less perilous for one with some degree of African ancestry than the United States! – had read fascinating stories in Lord Offgrange’s account of his travels there – but he had work upon hand with his botanical study of the moors –

Besides, 'twould mean a deal of a long while parted from Beauf.

Julius smiled to himself. He would be going to Town, and while he would be staying with his parents, there would be opportunities to meet, even with all this bustling upheaval over the impending election. Especially as he apprehended that Lady Isabella was still recruiting in the country and thus not requiring to be squired around the events of the Season by an elder brother.

Hulloa! Roberts! I did not know you were in Oxford.

Julius blinked and emerged from his brown study, to observe Cuthbert Davison.

Davison! How d’you do? Have just been having a fine convocation at the Botanic Garden.

Ah, one might anticipate they would be glad to draw upon your understandings of plants! – do you stay long in Oxford?

No – go up to Town tomorrow, to assure m’mother the famed Seraphine that I am still in life and health, and not being starved by Mrs Dunstall. But what are you about these days?

Davison glanced from side to side. Why, I have a deal to tell you. How should it be, did I get my college buttery to put me up a pique-nique, and we might take a little excursion on the river? Now term is done 'twill be exceedingly peaceful.

By this, Julius understood that Davison had somewhat to communicate under discretion. And a jaunt on the river sounded a very agreeable way of passing the rest of the day. He nodded. That sounds delightful, he said.

So here they were, and indeed 'twas exceedingly peaceful. Davison turned out quite the water-man – oh, sure, I never turned out for the Eights but I have ever found rowing a pleasant form of exercize –

They came to an agreeable spot where they might moor the boat and be entirely private.

Julius was in no particular worry that Davison was still like to be yearning towards him: there had been a little awkwardness last year, when he had come visit in order to advize on the possibilities of creating a Persian garden at Nitherholme. Julius had occasionally enjoyed discreet brief passages with other men besides Beauf – surely justified by their frequent separations and, moreover, Beauf’s continuing liaison with Flora? – but it had been apparent that Davison was in hopes of rather more.

Indeed, it soon came about to be quite clear that an entirely new prospect had opened though one that did, one must admit, had its own difficulties

Had been convoking with Lady Rondegate over setting certain ghazals that Mrs Lucas had turned into English verse, and the nature of Persian music, and how one might evoke somewhat of that – for one fancied English ears were not yet ready for the full effect – what a talented and intelligent woman was Lady Rondegate – most amiable – exceedingly hospitable – he had become quite an intimate of the household –

And he found himself developing affections towards Rondegate himself – that were, he fancied, reciprocated

Julius nodded. Had been reported that Rondegate had been seen very little at the club of late and one had wondered whether, having married an agreeable wife, he was one that found he was less indifferent to feminine charms than he had supposed? They were, it was given out, a very fond couple, or at least, presented thus in Society.

But who knew better than he the way of these things? Though the matter was rather different when the lady in the triangle was that fiery creature Flora Ferraby, that disdained marriage and lived an independent life with the companionship of his own sister Hannah.

Well, that is a tangle! he said. 'Tis something to think upon – should wish to open the matter to Beau – to Sallington – 'tis a different situation with Merrett I fancy, Asterley is not part of his domestic circle –

I should not in the least wish to distress Her Ladyship, said Davison in anxious tones.

Why, the situation was indeed delicate – was not sure that he himself was the best fellow to advize – but should do what he might for others of the brotherhood. Would never forget the kindness a troubled young Julius had received in Venice from Marcello Traversini, a fine example to follow.

So once he was in Town, and had dispatched certain family dutifulness, including listening to Seraphine advancing the interest of these learned young ladies that there are these days, entire fitted as wives for men of science

Took himself to the club where he was at last able to foregather with Beauf and have a most agreeable reunion. Then went dine together in one of the private rooms so that they might exchange gossip without interruption.

Beauf spent a little while complaining upon the turmoil that this election brought to the family – and here is Bella, of a sudden decides to take an interest in politics and make herself useful, well, I must concede 'tis a boon to have a pair of hands to odd tasks whilst I assist Papa, but she asks questions

Julius grinned, and then gave a little of the news from Nitherholme. Beauf groaned. Shall have to go there, and make agreeable to Fendersham – no Polly, that must still be at sea, not even yet to Panama –

They agreed that they greatly missed her company.

And while I have all this upon hand, here is Rondegate, not only would desire me to come visit Wepperell Larches – that is in a part of the country that I fancy is still give over not only to the Tory interest, but to that part of it that considers Sir Robert an entire Judas – but in a great romantic complication –

Julius revealed that he knew somewhat of that!

Quite devoted to Zipsie – does not in the least sound to be in the Zellens’ situation – dislikes the thought of deceit, but how can one speak of these matters to a nicely-brought up young woman? Takes nothing away from her –

Lord, he went on, 'twas an entire different matter being brought up among the Raxdell House Phalanstery! Gave one a broader notion of the arrangements that were possible was there affection and kindness – along with an understanding of the necessity of discretion in the eyes of Society –

They fell silent. Julius thought of his mother’s considerable affection – not mere loyalty! – towards the late Lord Raxdell – had a fair notion that she had known how matters stood there 'twixt him and MacDonald: but doubted she would welcome any revelation that her own son was of like disposition.

At length Julius ventured that there was no possibility that Lady Rondegate had Sapphic inclinations?

Only, I suspect, towards whichever Muse 'tis that governs music! But she may have some apprehension that they exist – there is another impending trouble over Thea Saxorby being persuaded to sing the settings of certain lyrics by Sappho by that lady whom m’father refers to as that jealous hag Billston, for my aunt Jane, and the matter becoming bruited about –

How very fortunate, Julius remarked, that Lady Theodora’s brother Simon is somewhere on the high seas bound for Peru. But – Wepperell Larches, you say. Rondegate has said somewhat to me about the gardens – sadly neglected – would greatly appreciate my opinion –

Beauf chuckled. From what my aunt Martha tells me of their visit, you would find yourself quite besieged by the local gentry about their gardens and I daresay about what they believe to be some rare orchid that grows in their park –

Julius groaned. 'Tis ever some rare orchid that they wish to boast of. But 'tis an eligible plan – would Lady Rondegate be traveling with him?

I apprehend that she is in such condition that bouncing about in a carriage over the roads in those parts is not advized.

Ah. So, a bachelor party, then.

They looked at one another. At length Beauf said, I daresay one might be obliged to call upon the talents of Lady Bexbury in the matter, but – not just yet.


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Posted by Amanda

Welcome back to Cover Snark!

Say Yes to the Princess by Charis Michaels. A brunette woman in a peach dress is leaning back on a stone bench, braced on her arms. A man in tight black pants and no shirt is leaning over her. Both are very smooth and shiny. He also has a very long neck.

Amanda: This gives me Barbie animated movie vibes.

Sarah: His head is so big, and his neck is so long, and I’m also confused by the size of her head and the length of her arms.

This is giving me the uncanny valley vibes of that one Julie Anne Long Cover – not the smirking git one, the giant head lady one.

This one:

Angel in a Devil's Arms by Julie Anne Long. A blond naked man is in bed in the background with white sheets around his waist. In the foreground, a blonde woman in a yellow dress is leaning against the door jamb. Her head looks big compared to the slimness of her arms and neck.

Sarah: “Head too big, arms too short” will be the name of my podcast about disturbing cover art.

Elyse: That’s similar to my favorite kitten/puppy stage “ears too big, legs too long”

Sarah: His neck is long, right? It’s not just me?

Elyse: I think it’s not long, it’s broken.

Sarah: “How.”
” How what?”
” How did you know that my father was Gumby?”
” Everyone knows your father is Gumby, my lord.”

Elyse: LMAO

Sarah: “I thought we had hidden it.”

“You thought you had hidden your lineage and connection to Lord Gumbert Rubberthwaite, Earl of Stretetshingtonshoreley?”

“Which is pronounced ‘Stretchley?’ Really, you thought that was a secret?”

Elyse: I would read that book.

Behind the Net by Stephanie Archer. An illustrated cover. A man in gray pants and a dark blue hockey jersey is lifting up a woman to rest on the metal portion of a hockey net. She has sandy blond hair, light jeans, and a purple sweater, with slip-on boat shoes.

From Kelly B: One-the title is Behind the Net but they are clearly in front of the net. And two-the physics required to sit on a hockey net like that.

Sarah: This is just awful on so many gravitational and proportional levels.

Amanda: Girl has got to be engaging her core like crazy.

The Countess's Groom by Emily Larkin. A brunette woman in a blue dress is pulling away from a dude with wavy brown hair who is trying to kiss her.

Also from Kelly B: This is the only clinch cover I’ve seen with an active escape attempt by the heroine. Her entire being is recoiling from his pursuit.

Sarah: What is happening. His breath must be deadly.

Shana: She looks like she’s playing dead in the hopes that he will take his horrible breath far far away

Amanda: It’s very similar to the swerve my cats do when I try to kiss their little kitty heads.

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Jan. 11th, 2026 03:23 am
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Dear Eric: My husband has just one sibling, a brother. For many years, we all invited each other to celebrate birthdays, anniversaries and other holidays. A few years ago, my brother-in-law and his wife stopped inviting us. (They still invite my husband's parents to everything).

We don't know the reason; there was no fight or misunderstanding or awkward interactions. We in turn no longer invite them to our smaller occasions. Weddings and other big occasions are different; everyone is invited.

However, every time we are celebrating our birthdays or anniversary, my husband starts insisting on inviting his brother. No matter how many times I remind him that they no longer invite us, he says it is still his only sibling and it's important to him that his brother be there.

I refuse to agree to invite them, the only exception I make is for my husband's birthday because that's him we are celebrating so he can invite them if he wants. They attend his birthday but do not reciprocate. It's very weird.

I still cannot figure out why it's important to have people at our table that do not care about seeing us at theirs.

Can you help me formulate a response that would stop my husband from asking me to invite them? Apparently my saying no every time for years and explaining why is not sufficient. I am tired of these arguments, and it does not change anything. I need an ironclad reason that he will agree with.

– Tired of the One-Way Street


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Cloudflare measures TCP

Jan. 12th, 2026 03:48 am
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Posted by George Michaelson

Cloudflare looks at TCP flows as a 'man-in-the-middle' on your behalf, using a 1% global traffic sample to reveal session behaviour, congestion control, and surprising quirks of modern Internet connections.

Musings on my fic-writing adventures

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:18 pm
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This is a placeholder and a reminder to write some of the things I've been reflecting on during these months I've been writing my Khemjira fic. There are so many thoughts... 

An unexpected revelation

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:56 pm
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Had a person wander into the 2nd floor corridor looking for the women's washroom. Alas, our 2nd floor women's washroom stopped being functional this week end so all I had to offer was three gender neutral washrooms... one of which is usually the men's.

Then it occurred to me the corridor she came from is from the "new" part of Hagey, the accounting section. While she was hesitating, looking unhappy at the choices offered, I asked if that was where she was from. She said yes, so I told her that section has a very nice (zero barrier) women's on the main floor. Off she went.

Once she was gone, it struck me as odd that she would wander as far as old Hum looking for a washroom.t.

I mentioned this to my supervisor and yeah, apparently because it's an expansion of Hagey, it didn't have to have all the amenities an independent building of the same size would have to have. Thus the comparative lack of washrooms, and a total lack of elevators.

Media update 11012026

Jan. 11th, 2026 10:47 pm
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There aren’t many currently airing shows I’m interested in, so I’m focusing on slowly returning to the ones I left unfinished before 2025 ended. I also want to try watching shorter Korean and Japanese shows before the flood of new releases starts again.

I want to avoid feeling overwhelmed, and I also want to read more… as much as my brain allows. Sometimes it just refuses, and if I force myself, I end up feeling demand-avoidant, which isn’t useful at all.

I’ve also started tracking the fics I’m reading, because why not? Let’s see if my OCD doesn’t take over, hahaha. I hope I can keep it under control.

Now, let’s see the update.


Finished watching
  • Peach Trap (Korean BL) – No Schedule – 8 episodes
  • Love begins in the World of If (Japanese BL) – No Schedule – 6 episodes

Currently reading
  • SVSSS Vol. 4 - Chapter 26
  • Counterattack - Chapter 198
  • Panguan - Chapter 41 (slow progress is still progress)

Currently watching

Dramas
  • Me and Thee (Thai BL) – Saturdays – 9/10 episodes
  • Interminable (Thai BL) – Fridays – 10/11 (12?) episodes
  • Goddess Bless You From Death (Thai BL) – Fridays – 10/13 episodes
  • Burnout Syndrome (Thai BL) – Wednesdays – 6/10 episodes
  • Dare You To Death (Thai BL) – Thursdays – 2/10 episodes
  • KinnPorsche (Thai BL) – No Schedule – 4/14 episodes
  • The Long Ballad (Chinese Drama) – No schedule – 6/49 episodes
  • Runaway (Thai GL) – No schedule – 2/8 episodes

Reality show
  • DMD Friendship Reality, the Third Chapter – Sundays – 4/6 episodes

Documentary
  • Debo, puedo y quiero: Juan Gabriel (Mexican documentary) – No Schedule – 3/4 episodes

Anime
  • Sanrio Danshi – No schedule – 8/12 episodes

On hold

Anime
  • Komi Can’t Communicate – No schedule – 4/24 episodes
  • Rokuhōdō Yotsuiro Biyori – No schedule – 2/12 episodes

Dramas
  • The Bangkok Boy (Thai BL) – No schedule – 2/12 episodes
  • Theory of Love (Thai BL) – No schedule – 2/12 episodes
  • Perfect 10 Liners (Thai BL) – No schedule – 4/24 episodes


Finished watching

Peach Trap. A cute boy is fired unjustly from his job, and then we learn there are three guys interested in him. They start actively pursuing him, and that’s it. It was short, which is why I decided to give it a try, but I didn't like it in the end. At first it looked cute and some parts really were, but the protagonist didn't have a personality… his entire character was just that the three guys liked him. It reminded me a bit of Secret Relationships (only a bit, because of the 3:1 situation), but in that show the protagonist at least had something interesting going on inside his head and I enjoyed the toxicity and unhingedness. Here, the protagonist just seemed to be a cutie, but nothing else. Maybe I’m too picky now, or maybe I wasn’t in the mood for a fluffy substanceless show… I don’t know. I think what frustrated me most is that I didn’t even find it that entertaining. I’ve watched mid shows lately, but this one felt a bit like a chore at times, and that’s with only eight short episodes. So yeah…

Love Begins in the World of If. It's about an office worker who finds it difficult to fit into his new role, even a year after being transferred to the sales department. He finds a mysterious mirror in a shrine that helps him see his “ideal self” and transports him to a different world. The first episode is very gloomy and incredibly relatable, so of course I wanted to see where it was going… and I ended up enjoying it so much. It’s also incredibly bingeable, with only six episodes of about half an hour each.

I love Japanese BL stories about sad office workers who find love, stories that feel deeply familiar. This one really hits on the theme of asking for help and not closing yourself off, plus the idea that your attitude toward the world fundamentally shapes how you see everything and even how others treat you. I know because I talked about this exact thing in therapy not long ago, and how frustrating it is that it’s actually true. I liked this one A LOT.


Currently watching

Me and Thee. This episode was my least favorite, and it highlights an issue I have with a lot of Thai shows: they rush things in a way where the ending is emotionally satisfying, but not necessarily in a narratively coherent way… The conflicts that seemed so important in previous episodes get resolved too easily, making them feel gratuitous in the first place. There’s also the issue of wanting to include many plot points without having enough runtime to really develop and resolve them without rushing. It happened with My Magic Prophecy too, and I find it frustrating.
Now I’m curious about the novel it’s based on, to see if it’s a source material issue or an adaptation issue.

That being said, I still enjoyed it, I still adore Thee, and I definitely liked it a lot more than MMP… But I don’t know, I don’t know… Most of the GMMTV shows I’ve watched lately have this issue, and I think the screenwriters really need to take a different approach, but let’s be honest, I don’t think that will happen. Again, maybe I'm just becoming too picky. Maybe the really good, well-written shows I’ve watched have spoiled me. Who knows…

Interminable. No, at this point I’m just watching because there’s only one episode (and the special episode) left, but oh gods… the pacing for this show is awful. Too slow, and things barely happened. The political intrigue wasn’t really mentioned in this episode… 

The story had the potential of being interesting, and I wanted to know how things ended for the protagonists in their first life, and how they would end up being together with the issue of one of them being a ghost in the present, but it really felt like it dragged too much. There were interesting conflicts that could have been explored in more detail, like the class one as an obstacle between Khun Yai and Kaewta. I don’t love the evil and possessive not-sister either, sigh. And now I have a feeling that the ending is going to be rushed and unsatisfying…

Again, Billy and Babe were so pretty in this, but agh. And I really want to know, just as with Me and Thee, if it’s a source material issue or an adaptation issue. But I don’t want to start new books before finishing Panguan and SVSSS and Counterattack ToT, so we’ll see.

Goddess Bless You From Death. I don’t have much to say this week about this one. I’m still enjoying it, it’s still scary at times, and the resolutions are close, I can feel it. I’ve seen people complain about the incompetent police and how inefficient the investigations and procedures seem, and I’m here, thinking in mexican: lolololol. The police is efficient somewhere? That sounds fake, but sure. 

Burnout Syndrome. I am loving how fucked up the relationships in this one are. I enjoy every time the characters make terrible decisions, and all the thoughts and feelings it leaves me with. All the conversations about art, all the symbolism… It’s the artsy thing I’ve always been drawn to, honestly.

I love the intensity and the frustration the characters face. And visually, it’s just gorgeous. Really, I just hope the resolution isn’t too simplistic, though… please, let the resolution to the conflicts be satisfying and complex.

Dare You To Death. I skipped this week’s episode. I don’t know if I want to catch up lol.

KinnPorsche.
Slowly making progress. I can see why it’s a favorite of the Thai BL fandom. So far, I’ve liked it, and I think it’s going to be among my favorites, too.

The Long Ballad. We’re back, baby!

Runaway.
No progress, but I really need to make an effort to watch during the day so the ghosts (no matter how fake they look) don’t end up haunting my nights.

Baldur's Gate 3: Taviana

Jan. 11th, 2026 11:44 pm
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Ages ago, I said that I was going to start making posts about my various OCs in video game playthroughs since I mainly play TTRPGs. And then, you know, I never actually did it. So, since I actually managed to spend most of yesterday and today playing Baldur's Gate 3, let's talk about the playthrough that I focused on. Minor spoilers for early Act 3 and a few very, very broad ones for Acts 1-2.

Meet Taviana.



More under the cut. )

This.

Jan. 11th, 2026 10:30 pm
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[Tumblr post from Kaiyves-backup which reads, "HE COULD BE IN JAIL RIGHT NOW! We got so close and if the election had gone the other way he absolutely would be and he wouldn't be harming anyone and we would never have to hear of him ever again and every day it tears me up that we were THIS CLOSE to that."]
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"The Sick Times is an independent news site founded by journalists Betsy Ladyzhets and Miles Griffis. We report on the Long COVID crisis, COVID-19, and infection-associated illnesses." They redacted the excerpt I had linked here because they found the whole book engaged in Covid denial and promotion of harmful treatments for ME/CFS. (Thanks to [personal profile] silveradept for the heads up.)

Replacement link, by one of the editors at Sick Times: The Soft Butch That Couldn’t (Or: I Got COVID-19 in March 2020 and Never Got Better) by Heather Hogan.

(On a lighter note) 6th grader's science experiment answers, 'Do cat buttholes touch every surface they sit on?' by Jacalyn Wetzel, Upworthy staff.
The results? Turns out that, no, cat buttholes do not touch every surface cats sit on. Now, let's all take a collective sigh of relief while we go over the details.


A Culture of Resilience by Lindsey Foltz, a beautifully written and photographed exploration of home food preserving in Bulgaria.
[I]ndustrial and small-scale agriculture; cultivated and wild foods; formal and informal economies; leisure and work do not function as stark polarities but rather in interconnecting, mutually supportive relationships through which home preservers practice, develop, and share their craft. The entanglement of formal and informal economies, domestic and wild foods, smallholders and industrial farms, local and global influences visible in everyday food practices in Bulgaria specifically and Eastern Europe more broadly condense in household cellars. As the cellar tour I describe below illustrates, these uniquely social practices provide resilience in terms of food security and the ability to pursue something more than mere survival.


What the World Got Wrong About Autistic People by Ludmila N. Praslova, Ph.D., SHRM-SCP via [personal profile] andrewducker.
Prejudice is one reason decades of research got autism so wrong. Researchers measured autistic people against neurotypical expectations and called every difference a deficit. They tested empathy by measuring in-group preference and missed commitment to universal fairness. They measured creativity by counting the number of ideas and missed originality. They saw moral consistency and called it rigidity. They saw deep engagement and called it rigidity. They saw sensory richness and called it disorder.

Most critically, they failed to ask autistic people about their inner experiences. They studied autism without genuinely listening to the autistic perspective. For decades, science examined autistic people through a lens of pathology and deficit, rather than dignity, comparing us to animals while missing our humanity. But autistic people don't lack humanity. Research just lacked the humanity to see it.
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A Parent Trap AU where the twins (either set) don't end up at the same sleepaway camp, but then do some kind of DNA matching thing to try to find out about their missing parent/if they have siblings, and discover the whole situation, because their parents never came clean to them about it.

I can't figure out a plot, so maybe just a brief drabble or something?

Either set of twins would be interesting for this; with the original set, it would add a lot because they'd possibly be grandparents by that point, so this could be something their kids suggest, as a "oh, now there's this way you might be able to find out more" (of course, for the twin raised by the father, there is definitely the "this is the name on the mother on the birth certificate", although in the remake IIRC she does know her mother's name?), and then discover that there's a sibling, and meeting the sibling and realizing it has to be a twin, and trying to figure out, at this late date, the mystery of what the fuck happened.

Or with the remake twins, the parents are likely still around, and so there could be a lot of either demanding answers, or some kind of "whoops, it's the other twin who comes for Christmas".

Whole book: "Mutual Aid"

Jan. 11th, 2026 07:54 pm
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Mutual Aid by Dean Spade is a whole book available online. Subtitle: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next).
This book provides a concrete guide for building mutual aid groups and networks. Part I explores what mutual aid is, why it is different than charity, and how it relates to other social movement tactics. Part II dives into the nitty-gritty of how to work together in mutual aid groups and how to handle the challenges of group decision-making, conflict, and burnout. It includes charts and lists that can be brought to group meetings to stimulate conversation and build shared analysis and group practices. Ultimately, helps imagine how we can coordinate to collectively take care of ourselves—even in the face of disaster—and mobilize hundreds of millions of people to make deep and lasting change.


I've only read a little bit of this, despite having it open in a tab for months. It feels hopeful, experienced, and direct, so I hope to read the rest eventually.