Cycle of Improvement
Oct. 24th, 2014 09:23 amI feel I often cycle through a pattern something like:
1. I'm living with the status quo "ok", despite living with a number of bad habits of thought (either my problems, or not noticing bad situations, eg. see previous locked post etc, etc).
2. I have a little bit of success, look to the longer term, notice what I've been putting up with.
3. I go into an introspective spiral, annoyed at all the things I've been doing wrong, get all wibbly, and often blame myself for not having noticed and dealt with it earlier.
4. I resolve a lot of problems, and resume a slightly happier more efficient status quo
That means, when I get all wibbly, it might mean things have got worse, but it almost always actually means, I've just poked my nose up above my comfort-zone parapet of coping strategies to try to tackle some of the problems directly.
Like, in the previous post, I could cope fine with stressful situations by just accepting that problems came up every three months and would be stressful for a bit and then go away, but understanding it will (hopefully) remove a lot of that stress, as I know what to fix and what just to ignore.
However, I'm only now noticing this is a pattern I fall into, and wondering (i) could I have noticed earlier and (ii) can I reduce the angst-wibble in step #3 to make the process more efficient and be less annoying/worrying for my friends.
And for that matter, (iii) can I embrace the cycle, and not just wait for success+stress to trigger it, but deliberately try to have a certain amount of introspection per month (but not more, or it just goes angsty, and not less, or it all gets stored up and bursts out in this cycle)?
1. I'm living with the status quo "ok", despite living with a number of bad habits of thought (either my problems, or not noticing bad situations, eg. see previous locked post etc, etc).
2. I have a little bit of success, look to the longer term, notice what I've been putting up with.
3. I go into an introspective spiral, annoyed at all the things I've been doing wrong, get all wibbly, and often blame myself for not having noticed and dealt with it earlier.
4. I resolve a lot of problems, and resume a slightly happier more efficient status quo
That means, when I get all wibbly, it might mean things have got worse, but it almost always actually means, I've just poked my nose up above my comfort-zone parapet of coping strategies to try to tackle some of the problems directly.
Like, in the previous post, I could cope fine with stressful situations by just accepting that problems came up every three months and would be stressful for a bit and then go away, but understanding it will (hopefully) remove a lot of that stress, as I know what to fix and what just to ignore.
However, I'm only now noticing this is a pattern I fall into, and wondering (i) could I have noticed earlier and (ii) can I reduce the angst-wibble in step #3 to make the process more efficient and be less annoying/worrying for my friends.
And for that matter, (iii) can I embrace the cycle, and not just wait for success+stress to trigger it, but deliberately try to have a certain amount of introspection per month (but not more, or it just goes angsty, and not less, or it all gets stored up and bursts out in this cycle)?