Yeah. I see A/B both when what the following anecdote is stereotypical of the characteristic, and when it isn't.
Of course you're also somewhat trapped because if you want to be non-offensive, you have to guess what other people might have prejudices against: if you lived in a colour-agnostic world, you might still mention it, which would be offensive to people used to prejudice based on colour.
I don't like irrelevant details
Yeah, IKWYM. I'm generally happy with them, but not if people are going to be confusing about it.
And *sympathy* with family. I generally use names, and try to convey psychically that "The name may well not mean anything to you this time, but if you spot a pattern, feel free to start allocating mental space for the person" (which mum is good at picking up on) :)
Maybe you should invent a virtual housemate and attribute the comments of all friends your family don't know to him :)
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Date: 2008-09-24 04:19 pm (UTC)Yeah. I see A/B both when what the following anecdote is stereotypical of the characteristic, and when it isn't.
Of course you're also somewhat trapped because if you want to be non-offensive, you have to guess what other people might have prejudices against: if you lived in a colour-agnostic world, you might still mention it, which would be offensive to people used to prejudice based on colour.
I don't like irrelevant details
Yeah, IKWYM. I'm generally happy with them, but not if people are going to be confusing about it.
And *sympathy* with family. I generally use names, and try to convey psychically that "The name may well not mean anything to you this time, but if you spot a pattern, feel free to start allocating mental space for the person" (which mum is good at picking up on) :)
Maybe you should invent a virtual housemate and attribute the comments of all friends your family don't know to him :)