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Because many things that are a bit outré in traditional society have wide acceptance among my friends, I tend to think of us as more accepting and less judgemental. And I think we are, somewhat, because many people make a genuine effort to be accepting of ideas even if they disagree with them.

But I think, like everyone, I've also trained myself not to notice when I'm not discussing something because it might be awkward, because your own taboos are often invisible to you. My subculture has taboos, just like every other.

It's hard to say what's a taboo, and what's just "people don't like it because it's wrong". People I know don't have much tolerance for factual assertions that seem spurious, so where's the dividing line? Maybe things that make people cross not just confused?

What ideas would I feel uncomfortable expressing, even if I believed in them? (Most I disagree with, but I think maybe the instinctive level of disagreement is too knee-jerk and often excludes some people.)

* "Bike helmets should be worn"
* "There are times windows is more convenient than linux"
* "I drink no-alcohol beer"
* "I drink decaff coffee"
* "I like Twilight"
* "I like Dan Brown"
* "I'm an observant member of a religion"
* "I support the conservative party"

Almost none of those apply to me -- but I'm embarrassed to consider which of my ideas might be taboo, because, by definition, that would create a giant argument of people telling me I'm wrong.

Which other ideas do you think might be taboo in this subculture?

Also see:

http://www.paulgraham.com/say.html, where he says "if you're not hidebound by peer pressure, you must have some beliefs which are unpopular in your social group, not just unpopular to wider society"

http://slatestarcodex.com/2013/06/30/the-lottery-of-fascinations/ says "he wishes people he knew were as accepting of people who don't like maths as they are of gay people"

Date: 2013-07-05 12:50 pm (UTC)
liv: cup of tea with text from HHGttG (teeeeea)
From: [personal profile] liv
Well, I use Windows and find it convenient, I'm religiously observant (FSVO), and I would definitely wear a bike helmet if I got organized about bike-riding. And most of your friends are pretty accepting of me, and I don't think I'm the only one who holds these minority views either.

Date: 2013-07-05 02:21 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ceb
"I'm an observant member of a religion"

Srsly, you're just not paying attention. You know lots of these people, and many of them quite often talk about what they were doing in church the other day, just in casual conversation like. You're not noticing the lack of arguments.

Also I don't think anyone has a problem with decaff coffee; no-alcohol beer hasn't come up but I think people would just think it odd rather than wrong; and understanding of guilty pleasures certainly stretches as far as Twilight even if it maybe doesn't reach all the way to Dan Brown.

Date: 2013-07-08 03:14 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] damerell
And I might needle our mutual Tory friend about it, but it's clearly an opinion he can express.

Date: 2013-07-05 09:50 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] ptc24
Can I just point out how this has become a huge LJ discussion, and little has happened on DW.