Poly Speed Dating

[jack]

Poly speed dating again tomorrow! In 3s. I managed to escape doing the programming for the matching algorithm this time :)

What should I tell people about why they should like me?

Comments

[liv]

The main reason people should like you is maybe a bit personal for speed dating: you're really good at accepting emotions and being soothing and calming without making people's feelings illegitimate. And you're awesome at cuddling, but lots of creepy poly men say that so it's probably not a good opening.

So I think what you should say is that you put a lot of thought and effort into self-improvement. That gives you a conversation opener, you can talk about some of your productivity stuff, and if you want to get more personal, talk about how you got over some of your problems with procrastination and perfectionism. Also I have read that this trait is supposed to be very attractive to women; it's certainly attractive to me, but it might well be a good way to pique people's interest without risking being creepy by saying you're really good at sex or massage or other physical things. Or making a big deal of the fact that you're really kind and thoughtful. You actually are, but if you say that it makes you sound like a Nice Guy.