Putting salt on food before you taste it
Jan. 22nd, 2013 12:48 pmThere's a story about a woman who went to a job interview, and was taken out to dinner, and put salt on her food before tasting it, and the boss immediately rejected her without further consideration.
It didn't literally happen, but the attitude that you should or shouldn't add salt to food is something people really do argue about.
The intended message is something like, "the candidate was stupid for adding salt without knowing if the food was salty enough, since she can't take it out again".
But in fact, that's an etiquette issue. Do you trust the person preparing the meal to have prepared it correctly, or not?
But as with all parables, there are many possible messages. What I see is a class issue. If you have been raised from birth eating primarily meals cooked by a personal chef, then yes, any meal in front of you should be tailored to your personal taste, and you shouldn't assume otherwise.
But if you've been cooked for primarily by an overworked unaided parent trying to cook for seven, or by McDonalds, the food probably hasn't been tailored to your personal taste. Or it has in some respects, but the chef probably aimed for "slightly below average preference for salt"[1] and assumed that everyone would know that and could add salt to whatever level they preferred.
There are reasons for workplaces to require people to jump through hoops even if they're completely arbitrary (eg. wearing shoes, wearing ties, not swearing, lying and pretending personality tests are super-effective, using a formal register of speech, etc). At a minimum it selects people who are willing to put in effort to fit in and not be disruptive.
But it's also true that, as a side effect, it selects for the people who are already in that system, and against those who aren't, even if they're equally competent.
So I'm not sure if I blame the fictional boss for blaming the applicant. I'm not even sure if I blame her for lying and claiming the applicant stupid, rather than just for coming from a different culture -- claiming that the ways people signal high social status are due to inherent virtue rather than learned conformity is itself a way people effectively signal high social status!
But even if it's inevitable that people do so, and even if I'm equally "guilty" of being "stupid" and of "eating in the wrong restaurants", I resent being dismissed for the wrong thing, for being called stupid if I come from the wrong culture, or having my culture blamed if I ever show mental aptitude for something.
[1] In taste, not health.
It didn't literally happen, but the attitude that you should or shouldn't add salt to food is something people really do argue about.
The intended message is something like, "the candidate was stupid for adding salt without knowing if the food was salty enough, since she can't take it out again".
But in fact, that's an etiquette issue. Do you trust the person preparing the meal to have prepared it correctly, or not?
But as with all parables, there are many possible messages. What I see is a class issue. If you have been raised from birth eating primarily meals cooked by a personal chef, then yes, any meal in front of you should be tailored to your personal taste, and you shouldn't assume otherwise.
But if you've been cooked for primarily by an overworked unaided parent trying to cook for seven, or by McDonalds, the food probably hasn't been tailored to your personal taste. Or it has in some respects, but the chef probably aimed for "slightly below average preference for salt"[1] and assumed that everyone would know that and could add salt to whatever level they preferred.
There are reasons for workplaces to require people to jump through hoops even if they're completely arbitrary (eg. wearing shoes, wearing ties, not swearing, lying and pretending personality tests are super-effective, using a formal register of speech, etc). At a minimum it selects people who are willing to put in effort to fit in and not be disruptive.
But it's also true that, as a side effect, it selects for the people who are already in that system, and against those who aren't, even if they're equally competent.
So I'm not sure if I blame the fictional boss for blaming the applicant. I'm not even sure if I blame her for lying and claiming the applicant stupid, rather than just for coming from a different culture -- claiming that the ways people signal high social status are due to inherent virtue rather than learned conformity is itself a way people effectively signal high social status!
But even if it's inevitable that people do so, and even if I'm equally "guilty" of being "stupid" and of "eating in the wrong restaurants", I resent being dismissed for the wrong thing, for being called stupid if I come from the wrong culture, or having my culture blamed if I ever show mental aptitude for something.
[1] In taste, not health.