Of course, some people *do* have a key to my house. A *spare* key. The intention not being that they're part of the household, but that I need a spare somewhere in Cambridge in case I lose mine.
That doesn't necessarily mean I know them especially well -- I naturally chose my best friend, but I'd trust anyone I know not to steal my stuff, so if someone lived much nearer and I didn't mind asking, I might have asked them to keep it instead.
However, once they have it, they *could* let themselves in as much as someone else could. So I have the convenient option of saying "Hey, I'm out this afternoon but you're welcome to let yourself in and make coffee and log in to the internet as guest and get changed and dump your stuff and meet me later."
And they could jump the gun if they were meeting me and I was late.
But I had an awkward moment making it clear to one friend that I'd rather he didn't just *assume* it was ok without asking first.
I don't think you can ever assume that whatever you expect "should" be acceptable or would consider acceptable for your own house is necessarily acceptable for someone else. same applies to raiding the fridge while staying over, making yourself tea, dropping in uninvited, etc. all these things are fine for other people visiting me to do, but i know that other people /might/ mind and it's worth finding out and behaving accordingly :)
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Date: 2007-05-15 12:42 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2007-05-15 01:03 pm (UTC)I didn't realise anyone actually did this nowadays, if they ever did. It screams insecurity/invalid insurance policies etc to me.
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Date: 2007-05-15 01:06 pm (UTC)We certainly did, although it was only known to a few people, and was nothing as obvious as "under the plant pot by the doorstep".
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Date: 2007-05-15 01:11 pm (UTC)That doesn't necessarily mean I know them especially well -- I naturally chose my best friend, but I'd trust anyone I know not to steal my stuff, so if someone lived much nearer and I didn't mind asking, I might have asked them to keep it instead.
However, once they have it, they *could* let themselves in as much as someone else could. So I have the convenient option of saying "Hey, I'm out this afternoon but you're welcome to let yourself in and make coffee and log in to the internet as guest and get changed and dump your stuff and meet me later."
And they could jump the gun if they were meeting me and I was late.
But I had an awkward moment making it clear to one friend that I'd rather he didn't just *assume* it was ok without asking first.
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Date: 2007-05-15 01:27 pm (UTC)same applies to raiding the fridge while staying over, making yourself tea, dropping in uninvited, etc. all these things are fine for other people visiting me to do, but i know that other people /might/ mind and it's worth finding out and behaving accordingly :)