Gender neutral pronouns
Mar. 26th, 2008 07:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I'm sure you all know the history of Gender neutral pronouns. And most think the question is mostly settled, although not agree in favour of what :)
However, it occurs to me some reluctance might come from the fact that although I have a little voice in my head saying "Women and men are the same. Gender neutral is good" I have a great big klaxon blaring "ALL INFORMATION IS GOOD! LEARN THINGS! BE INFORMED! COMMUNICATE FULLY! INF. ORM. ATION. GOOD." :)
That is, apart from not being aesthetically fond of most of the choices of gender-neutral pronouns, I'm not fond that that word choice is deliberately less informative. If you're talking about a genuinely neutral (eg. hypothetical) or ambiguous person, or you don't know, there's no information lost, but I still only use the pronouns where I have good reason.
But today a friend made another reference to the concept of "Geek as gender" and something occurred to me so obvious I couldn't believe it hadn't before.
What if we had two or more pronouns that drew *different* demarcations? We already have special pronouns for royalty and gods. ("Her Royal Highness's" etc and "His" etc).
You could adopt the archaic second-person model and have "te" (pronounced with a long e), "tis" and "ter" and "ve", "vis" and "ver" for intimate acquaintances and others. Or for social acquiantances and work acquaintances.
Or have different pronouns for different groups people can adopt as whatever they feel like identifying as in a certain concept. (Of course, you shouldn't identify solely as one thing, but most people are happy to identify as one thing but others as well.) Perhaps two sets would be most common ("he" and "she" or some other division), but that someone would borrow the Sindarin or Quenya pronouns from Tolkien and use them when affectionately referring to people from the Tolkien society.
Of course, now we near the Chinese problem of having too many, and having to decide when meeting someone whether to use the very formal or the extremely formal version of their pronoun.
But on the other hand, it seems more positive, as choosing to use such a pronoun doesn't sound like "my gender isn't important to me" but "this other aspect of our acquaintance is more important". And if you have a good reason to use other pronouns, it's not so jarring when someone does.
I'm afraid I haven't thought this out in detail, but I thought it was a lovely idea.
However, it occurs to me some reluctance might come from the fact that although I have a little voice in my head saying "Women and men are the same. Gender neutral is good" I have a great big klaxon blaring "ALL INFORMATION IS GOOD! LEARN THINGS! BE INFORMED! COMMUNICATE FULLY! INF. ORM. ATION. GOOD." :)
That is, apart from not being aesthetically fond of most of the choices of gender-neutral pronouns, I'm not fond that that word choice is deliberately less informative. If you're talking about a genuinely neutral (eg. hypothetical) or ambiguous person, or you don't know, there's no information lost, but I still only use the pronouns where I have good reason.
But today a friend made another reference to the concept of "Geek as gender" and something occurred to me so obvious I couldn't believe it hadn't before.
What if we had two or more pronouns that drew *different* demarcations? We already have special pronouns for royalty and gods. ("Her Royal Highness's" etc and "His" etc).
You could adopt the archaic second-person model and have "te" (pronounced with a long e), "tis" and "ter" and "ve", "vis" and "ver" for intimate acquaintances and others. Or for social acquiantances and work acquaintances.
Or have different pronouns for different groups people can adopt as whatever they feel like identifying as in a certain concept. (Of course, you shouldn't identify solely as one thing, but most people are happy to identify as one thing but others as well.) Perhaps two sets would be most common ("he" and "she" or some other division), but that someone would borrow the Sindarin or Quenya pronouns from Tolkien and use them when affectionately referring to people from the Tolkien society.
Of course, now we near the Chinese problem of having too many, and having to decide when meeting someone whether to use the very formal or the extremely formal version of their pronoun.
But on the other hand, it seems more positive, as choosing to use such a pronoun doesn't sound like "my gender isn't important to me" but "this other aspect of our acquaintance is more important". And if you have a good reason to use other pronouns, it's not so jarring when someone does.
I'm afraid I haven't thought this out in detail, but I thought it was a lovely idea.
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Date: 2008-03-26 07:36 pm (UTC)I keep saying we should bring back the dual. And of course thou as singular/familiar you could come back into modern usage at the same time. I propose:
where () = currently archaic but that shouldn't stop anyone and * = currently doesn't exist at all and nor should that. The "s" at the end of *uns and *ins would be the same sound as at the end of "us", i.e. not a z sound.
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Date: 2008-03-26 07:40 pm (UTC)Furthermore:
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Date: 2008-03-26 07:50 pm (UTC)Seconded!
(Whoops, do you see what my subconscious did there?)
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Date: 2008-03-26 08:00 pm (UTC)* It doesn't help the gender pronoun thing
* The person you're talking to *knows* how well they know you :)
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Date: 2008-03-26 08:56 pm (UTC)I do like the idea of using an orthogonal set, as long as I can have the full grid of possibilities without thinking too hard. Or were you looking for a replacement?
Also, the most useful axis I can come up with runs from intimate to official, passing polite and respectful along the way. Age is another potential discriminator, but I think less useful and so it can probably be left as an attribute.
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Date: 2008-03-26 09:25 pm (UTC)What do you think is properly? I realised I confused a few different things when I was writing the post.
* Some way to refer to hypothetical people without the baggage of "generic he"
* Some way to refer to specific people whose gender we don't know or is unassigned
* Lots of people think it would be good if gender-neutral pronouns were used more widely or all the time, eg. that in responding to an lj comment, you could just use a neutral pronoun to refer to the author without feeling the need to check gender.
But I don't really feel there's very much more information conveyed, either the neutral pronoun replaces a more cumbersome previous expression of uncertainty, or replaces a previously gendered pronoun, when you lose some information and gain only that the neutral pronoun *was* used.
I admit I was thinking in terms of a neutral pronoun being used by default.
I do like the idea of using an orthogonal set, as long as I can have the full grid of possibilities without thinking too hard. Or were you looking for a replacement?
I don't quite follow but I was (not entirely seriously) envisaging many different pronouns assigning people to different groups, and you could pick whichever seemed most appropriate, maybe "he" or "she" in some contexts but never in others.
Also, the most useful axis I can come up with runs from intimate to official, passing polite and respectful along the way. Age is another potential discriminator, but I think less useful and so it can probably be left as an attribute.
Yes, agreed. Although formal isn't *that* necessary, it's generally clear from context, but it's somewhat useful, and an idea people are familiar with.
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[*] Though it might explain some of the more incomprehensible PuTTY bug reports...
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Date: 2008-03-27 04:01 pm (UTC)But I would point out to you that you don't know what dangly bits are possessed by most of the people you interact with; when you decide whether to call someone "he" or "she", you don't look in their pants (at least I hope not!) You look at their behaviour and dress and body language and all kinds of other cues which are to do with gender, and are only partially correlated with dangly bits.
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Date: 2008-03-27 12:32 am (UTC)Take this further - all short, common words could be given variant forms to convey extra nuance. There's a balance between comprehensibility and cramming in as much information as possible, of course, but we can put it where we like.
Personally, one nuance I find very useful is if vs. iff (meaning 'if and only if'). I'd love it to have easy way of making that distinction in speech.
Similarly with other conjunctions. Imagine if there were variant forms of 'because' to distinguish between proximate and ultimate causes, for instance.
While we're at it, I'd like some particles to indicate "I'm generalising; I know there are exceptions" or "This list of things isn't exhaustive" (the last of which I'd use just about here)
All of these would be much more useful than constantly repeating the sex of people you're talking about.
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Date: 2008-03-27 04:19 am (UTC)I do make a distinction there. I pronounce "if" as /Iv/ and "iff" as /If/. Until I took phonetics classes as part of my undergrad degree, I never noticed that pronouncing "if" as /Iv/ was unusual, idiolectal even. I thought everyone did it. (Now, of course, I notice that other people don't!)
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Date: 2008-03-27 11:18 am (UTC)Exactly. What great ideas.
Or perhaps, I don't want to have to learn new declensions to be able to talk, but I want the option to be there.
if vs. iff
Mathematicians often notice this. I think most of the time I say "if" to mean any of the normal meanings of "if" (which can be subtly different, I don't normally specify), but if I mean "iff" I say "iffff" or "if and only if" or "exactly when", etc.
Similarly, I use "or" in normal English either to mean "inclusive or" or "exclusive or" or "and" depending on context, but sometimes say "xor" if I want to disambiguate.
"I'm generalising; I know there are exceptions"
My god! I want this so much. To be frank, that could just be the default declension, and you could preface any sentence that's actually literally true and peer reviewed with something :)
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Date: 2008-03-27 11:29 am (UTC)Similarly, I wish "xor" (which I pronounce as "ksor" rather than "ex-or") were accepted in general language.
The particle to indicate "I'm generalising; I know there are exceptions" is possibly "-ish"? (-8
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Date: 2008-03-28 12:13 am (UTC)I think (a) that I was thinking more of cases where the information might be available and (b) the klaxon is so loud it sometimes supersedes the relevant bit of my brain and spills out into adjacent regions thinking about something different but related :)
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