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I've joked before that I have more private things in online accounts than in physical post. By default I don't share passwords with anyone, because things like email have things in that are private even if not secret. There's lots of things that I wouldn't share even with a partner by default.
My diary, because I keep it in a text file, and you can use my email to unlock most of my other accounts. Maybe it would be better if I had separate email accounts for "communication" and "account management" but I haven't set that up. If someone else talks to me in confidence about their life, that's *their* privacy, I don't automatically share it. I think it's normal that however close a relationship, you have the ability to talk *about* that relationship with someone else (a friend, a parent, a therapist, whatever) without that communication automatically being open. And because we're poly, there might be intimate conversations with someone else, that aren't secret, but aren't automatically including extra people either.
I don't mind someone looking over my shoulder usually because there's usually nothing private, just like I usually don't mind if someone I'm close to sees my post. But I don't want to automatically let someone read ALL of my email or ALL of my post.
As for other passwords, I don't care too much, I'm generally happy to share them with anyone I trust, although I don't too often because it's easy to forget that some account isn't as private as I thought it was. If I have an account which is more for the household than just me, there's often no way to have multiple separate people have separate logins to the same account, so I'd rather share that than not.
But I still get a weird feeling about it. I do instinctively separate "shared-ish" accounts and actually personal accounts, like at some places I've worked there's accounts with deliberately weak passwords on servers and suchlike. And my work network/email account is only mine, but I don't treat it as *private*, I wouldn't use a password I wasn't comfortable sharing at work if I needed to for instance.
We set up the shared laptop with a passwordless login we could both use for watching media and similar,
And one question is my phone. I really don't like sharing my phone with other adults because it has access to everything. But it's unavoidable sharing it with the children when we want to play games together.
I wish there were better security practices for sharing things, other than all or nothing, like being able to share read-only access to current email without the rest of the email account, for partners in an emergency. Or if (legally or illegally) law enforcement or someone insists on access, there's no valid reason they should automatically have the right to impersonate you and destroy your financial/personal/online life, even if they require the ability to READ everything of yours.
I've joked before that I have more private things in online accounts than in physical post. By default I don't share passwords with anyone, because things like email have things in that are private even if not secret. There's lots of things that I wouldn't share even with a partner by default.
My diary, because I keep it in a text file, and you can use my email to unlock most of my other accounts. Maybe it would be better if I had separate email accounts for "communication" and "account management" but I haven't set that up. If someone else talks to me in confidence about their life, that's *their* privacy, I don't automatically share it. I think it's normal that however close a relationship, you have the ability to talk *about* that relationship with someone else (a friend, a parent, a therapist, whatever) without that communication automatically being open. And because we're poly, there might be intimate conversations with someone else, that aren't secret, but aren't automatically including extra people either.
I don't mind someone looking over my shoulder usually because there's usually nothing private, just like I usually don't mind if someone I'm close to sees my post. But I don't want to automatically let someone read ALL of my email or ALL of my post.
As for other passwords, I don't care too much, I'm generally happy to share them with anyone I trust, although I don't too often because it's easy to forget that some account isn't as private as I thought it was. If I have an account which is more for the household than just me, there's often no way to have multiple separate people have separate logins to the same account, so I'd rather share that than not.
But I still get a weird feeling about it. I do instinctively separate "shared-ish" accounts and actually personal accounts, like at some places I've worked there's accounts with deliberately weak passwords on servers and suchlike. And my work network/email account is only mine, but I don't treat it as *private*, I wouldn't use a password I wasn't comfortable sharing at work if I needed to for instance.
We set up the shared laptop with a passwordless login we could both use for watching media and similar,
And one question is my phone. I really don't like sharing my phone with other adults because it has access to everything. But it's unavoidable sharing it with the children when we want to play games together.
I wish there were better security practices for sharing things, other than all or nothing, like being able to share read-only access to current email without the rest of the email account, for partners in an emergency. Or if (legally or illegally) law enforcement or someone insists on access, there's no valid reason they should automatically have the right to impersonate you and destroy your financial/personal/online life, even if they require the ability to READ everything of yours.
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Date: 2019-03-09 11:31 pm (UTC)I agree that this (at least the read only option) would be a great option to have much more standardly on more sorts of accounts.
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Date: 2019-03-10 01:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-03-10 08:15 am (UTC)Android is capable of supporting multiple users but it's disabled on my phone (and I suspect this is true of many phones). Children playing games seems like a good use case for it.
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Date: 2019-03-10 11:04 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2019-03-10 05:23 pm (UTC)The way I've seen it done in the work environment is that the sysadmin writes the master password on a bit of paper, places it in a sealed envelope and then signs the envelope across the folding flap so that it is really obvious if someone's opened it. That envelope is then placed in a safe or other secure place. Should there be a need for it, the password can be retrieved and the sysadmin can then change it after the event and put a new envelope in the safe.
You might not need to be quite so secure, but a sealed envelope lets you know your bank and other stuff can be accessed should it really be necessary.